Find Your Voice

Courage To Be YOU!

Do you struggle with expressing your thoughts, feelings and desires? Discover your voice and the freedom and confidence to speak it.

LifeStar Counseling can help you:

  • Overcome social fear
  • Gain strength to speak your beliefs
  • Escape from a controlling relationship
  • Embrace your passions
  • Replace self-criticism with healthy positive truths

Imagine being with a group of friends and someone in the group turns to you and says, “What would you like to do tonight, Mary?” While you maintain a smile, there is a silent panic creeping in as you scramble to come up with an answer. You intuitively know what each person in the group wants to do but really have no idea what you would really like to do. You choke out an answer hoping no one can see or sense your panic. The fact that you do not know what you like, what you don’t like or maybe can’t voice those thoughts even if you do know them can be very disconcerting.

It takes courage to find the strength and determination to find your own voice and even more strength and courage to use it on a regular basis. Sometimes people think it is selfish to voice your own desires or thoughts. The truth is that knowing your own likes and dislikes and being able to voice them respectfully is far from being selfish. It is living confidently and being willing to share your own uniqueness with those around you. Selfishness is demanding your own way and insisting that everyone conform to your ideas or you will make them pay somehow.

There are many roadblocks that we can run into in life that can squelch our voice. Fear is a huge roadblock that can keep many from speaking up. Past experiences that ended up negatively leave scars that keep us from expressing our true selves. Low self-esteem also can keep our voices silent if we don’t believe we have anything worth sharing. The freedom and confidence that comes with being able to know your own voice and having the courage to share it is very liberating.

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"Woman must not accept; she must challenge. She must not be awed by that which has been built up around her; she must reverence that woman in her which struggles for expression."
Margaret Sanger, founder of Planned Parenthood
"You have to imagine it possible before you can see something. You can have the evidence right in front of you, but if you can't imagine something that has never existed before, it's impossible."
Rita Dove, first African-American poet laureate of the U.S.
"The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any."
Alice Walker
"Hard work keeps the wrinkles out of the mind and spirit."
Helena Rubenstein, Polish cosmetics industrialist
"We never know how high we are Till we are called to rise; And then, if we are true to plan, Our statures touch the skies."
Betty Friedan, author of "The Feminine Mystique"
Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there is something inside you greater than any obstacle.
Christian D. Larson
"The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any."
Alice Walker, author of "The Color Purple"
"It is better to look ahead and prepare than to look back and regret."
Jackie Joyner-Kersee, first woman to win back-to-back gold medals in the Summer Olympics
"I have learned over the years that when one's mind is made up, this diminishes fear; knowing what must be done does away with fear."
Rosa Parks, African-American civil rights activist
"Remember no one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
Eleanor Roosevelt

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Contact LifeStar

LifeStar Counseling
13901 NE 175th Street
Suite F
Woodinville, WA 98072

Crisis Lines

If you are in crisis, call 911 or your local crisis line, which are available 24 hours a day.

Crisis Line in Snohomish County
425-258-4357 or 1-800-584-3578

Crisis Line in King County:
206-461-3222 or 1-866-427-4747